The Dominator

THE SEXUAL CONTROLLER
  • Rapes you
  • Won't accept no for an answer
  • Keeps you pregnant OR
  • Rejects your advances
KING OF THE CASTLE
  • Treats you as a servant/slave
  • Says women are for sex, cooking and housework
  • Expects sex on demand
  • Controls all the money
THE BULLY
  • Glares
  • Shouts
  • Smashes things
  • Sulks
THE JAILER
  • Stops you from working and seeing friends
  • Tells you what to wear
  • Keeps you in the house
  • Seduces your friends/family
THE BAD FATHER
  • Says you are a bad mother
  • Turns the children against you
  • Uses access to harass you
  • Threatens to take the children away
  • Persuades you to have his baby, and then refuses to help you care for it
THE LIAR
  • Denies any abuse
  • Says it was 'only' a slap
  • Blames drink, drugs, stress, overwork, you, unemployments, etc.
THE PERSUADER
  • Threatens to hurt or kill you or the children
  • Cries
  • Says he loves you
  • Threatens to kill himself
  • Threatens to report you to Social Services, DSS, etc
THE HEAD WORKER
  • Puts you down
  • Tells you you're too fat, too thin, ugly, stupid, useless, etc.
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Mr Right

 

THE LOVER
  • Shows you physical affection without assuming it will lead to sex
  • Accepts your right to say no to sex
  • Shares responsibility for contraception etc.
THE PARTNER
  • Does his share of the housework
  • Shares financial responsibility
  • Treats you as an equal.
THE FRIEND
  • Talks to you
  • Listens to you
  • Is a companion
  • Has a sense of humour
  • Is cheerful
THE LIBERATOR
  • Welcomes your friends and family
  • Encourages you to have outside interests
  • Encourages you to develop your skills at work or at college.
THE GOOD FATHER
  • Is a responsible parent
  • Is an equal parent
  • Supports your dealings with the children.
THE TRUTH TELLER
  • Accepts responsibility
  • Admits to being wrong.
THE NEGOTIATOR
  • Takes responsibility for his own well-being and happiness
  • Behaves like a reasonable human being.
THE CONFIDENCE
BOOSTER
  • Says you look good
  •  Values your opinions.
  • Supports your ambitions
  • Says you are competent
  • Values you.
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