For centuries, women have been used as sexual currency. We have provided sex and services in exchange for shelter and food. Now in a very small part of the world, a few women have the right to independence and paid work. However, centuries of conditioning are still with us, whether we are aware of it or not. Many of us still expect to be kept by men and, indeed, feel that to be single and independent is a mark of failure. We also feel that we need ‘looking after’. There is a very fine line between ‘protecting’ and ‘controlling’.

The Fairy Story

Once upon a time, there was an unmarried princess who ruled her land wisely and well. She made the laws, collected the taxes and was loved by all her subjects.

One day, when she was sitting by her lake, a frog hopped out of the water. “Hello Princess” said the frog. I am not really a frog at all, he continued. I am, in fact, a handsome prince. A wicked witch turned me into a frog. However, if you kiss me I will regain my handsome human form. I will then marry you.

You can have my children and care for them. I would like about eight. You can wash my clothes and cook my meals.